Language that belittles

It’s so easy to talk about someone when they aren’t present.

What we would say to one’s face is often different from what we’d say behind one’s back.

I find the same thing happens when hiding behind a computer. The level of harassment goes up a few notches when one sits at a screen typing in vitriol.

We may disagree with the actions of others, but maintaining a level of respect is required.

It is not OK to refer to a woman as a broad, which is what I heard the other day.

Granny, blue hair, old dear are some terms that patronize seniors. Talk to a senior and you’ll learn a lot, I promise. Don’t brush them off.

And when it comes to sending out an email, try this test before you send out your next one, complaining about something. Would I want to receive this email?

Let’s continue dialogues that are respectful and polite.


11 thoughts on “Language that belittles

  1. Remember viewers too may reach your 65th birthday and suddenly
    become a non Person in the eyes of many born later in the 20th
    The current OAP demographic is largely pre-war generations.
    living into their 90s or more – including WW2 male war veterans
    who are recognized as having played an interesting and significant
    role in our history.
    Why not wonder who that ‘Granny’ was besides someone who had a
    child whose own child’s birth somehow diminished her, already a
    non-person as just a Wife-of. And take media to task when someone
    is labelled as you yourselves will not wish when the time comes –
    assuming you are so lucky..

  2. A recent offputting reference in the Free Press was to
    ‘a gaggle of seniors’ with a picture of older women,which of
    course makes one think of gabbling geese. Apparently the
    writer did not make the association, just thought it meant
    they were fun.
    The tone of an e mail compared to a written one slowly composed
    is a problem, offence can be given without intent. The medium
    can bring out your inner pitbull if read too many of the Comments
    under newspaper stories. Aside from being bad for spelling skills.

  3. Are we blaming the Internet itself for negative messaging, or is
    it more what’s going on in the profitable services it has enabled
    called the Social Media ?

  4. Technology is neutral it is what is done with it that leads to problems.
    Too much time online, too much temptation, too many entrapments.
    Like Michael, I too worry about where this is taking us.

  5. Quite agree. But it’s not taking all of us astray. Perhaps we need to
    know which demographic is involved most on the downside, who is
    encouraging them for profit motives – and consider the role of the
    traditional media in making the Social interactions so central as “news”,
    I can hardly imagine now how things were just a decade and a half ago
    before the Internet was allowing institutions to post material online, sort
    of an electronic brochure approach. Talk of the Information Highway
    which hardly describes the situation today.
    Can anyone give the sequence of the Social mechanisms becoming available,
    starting with E-mailing 2 ways ?

  6. So 8 years back introduced us toFacebook, 6 years ago Twitter,and
    they seem to be the main business sites used by the nasty-tongued.
    So who are these falling prey to ‘Too much time online, too much
    temptation, too many entrapments’ ?
    And how can they be saved from themselves ? If mean dependent
    children, concerned parents can stop funding the service providers,
    and indulging their children with latest costly gadgets – or monitoring
    what the kid is really up to.
    One reads that parents – a pretty age broad demographic – aren’t literate
    about these, so it’s really not their fault if their children misuse equipment.
    Perhaps the focus of public education should start with the parents,
    you don’t have to be a victim of your child’s poor social behaviour.
    So where can adults learn these skills ? And who will quickly say kids
    are too clever , don’t bother ? – the people making money from their
    little darlings’ inappropriate behaviour.
    Any ideas ?


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